Thursday, January 10, 2013

Entry Number 15: Hope

The last few days have been nothing short of liberating.  I'm not sure where to begin other than to say I met someone incredible.  Someone beautiful, brilliant.  She is confident, and knows exactly who she is.  This girl is definitely not me, and I cannot keep her.

She has shown me a side of myself that I never thought I would be brave enough to ever see.  She is captivating and elicits from me what no one else ever could.  For the first time in my life, I feel like I might be okay after all.  She has filled me with a joy that I didn't think I could feel again; awaken in me a piece of of myself that I thought was forever lost.  I feel hope in place of the fear and shame that has crippled me for so long.

I have never met anyone like her.  In some ways, we are so alike I feel like she can see right through me.  My eyes have become windows to my soul when she holds my gaze, and I become an open book to things that only she has been able to understand.  It makes me happy and sad all at the same time to know that I am no longer alone in this.  I feel like for the first time, its okay that words are not enough.  The connection I feel transcends anything I could ever verbalize and I don't want to miss a single moment of if.

My new daily struggle is to avoid becoming attached.  I love people for who they are, and where they are in life's journey, and I have never felt as strongly as I do that our paths crossed at a pivotal point in my walk.  An though I know she will never be mine, I am grateful for every passing moment I am able to call her my friend.

She may never know the good she has done for me; never know the hope she has restored to a broken being, but she has touched my life in a way that I will never be able to repay.



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My emotions have been in full swing this week.  Exiting the throws of passion and racing towards the anniversary of my mothers death, I am again reminded that I am still not whole.  I am still a colossal mess despite all the growing I have done this year.

And I know that until I truly lay her to rest, I will continue to struggle with the demons of my past.  I feel old in my burdens and the weight of my borrowed beliefs continue to slow me down as I chase after my happiness. 

Like God, I can see my happiness just out of reach, and I am the only one standing in my way.  I am hampered by my insecurities and as much as I don't want to admit it.  I am in bondage to my own weaknesses, and instead of laying them down, I am too proud to ask for help.  I am no longer ashamed of my attractions, but I am unable to let go of the fear guilt that grips my soul.  

For the first time in my life, I told another individual (OUT LOUD), that I am gay.  It felt like a great weight lifting from my heart and evaporating into thin air.  This is huge for me, and yet I still have a long way to go.

No longer in a desolate place, I still wander.  Not quite as lost and confused as I have been, but still searching for that glimmer of light to follow.

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